By: Sel Kute
It was in the taxing sunlight of a winters morning, that my friend Paulo and I sat on the student-cluttered campus lawns. Through the many monotonous adolescent conversations we had, one common thread emerged among the headlines of a varsity students thought stream. So as the sun glanced down at us like an unsuspecting stage light, we engaged in an informal and borderline philosophical examination on the mechanics of love.
The main premise of my argument was rather anti-love, “Do we really need other human beings to love? I mean, all we need is food and shelter to survive and pursue our respective goals and ambitions, I don’t see where love fits into all of that?.” A pessimistic view on this much discussed constraint to human nature. “Listen, we all need to replicate and feel wanted I suppose, simple really” said Paulo with a ‘whipped’ man’s conviction.
These words reflected a man whose been in a long-term as-serious-as-a-marriage type relationship and was acceptably caught up in the twilight zone of attraction and love themed thought. But that was it, can we have the optimism and dynamism of self that those who are infected with this cancerous condition of love have without being a prisoner of its anxieties? Or in simple terms, can we be happy but loveless?. Ah, the pressing issues of today’s exuberant society.
My negativity towards this enigmatic concept may be apparent, but it does stem from a not so fruitful foray into the land of romance in which process outweighed outcome – effort outweighed result. The problem is that unlike many a spectrum of daily life, love is an institution that doesn’t guarantee effort-concentrated rewards. Perhaps its just a sample of broader life, but then again, when it’s all said and done the juggernaut that is life isn’t a fair machine is it?